Don’t fall for this habit

Eager to impress a guy we tell far too much about ourselves as we want to stand out and make him realize he would be a fool to let us get away.  Maybe we do have a lot to offer and would be the perfect wife, but it comes across as we are desperate.  Not something that a guy sees as very appealing.

Do you sabotage yourself?

Don’t turn a compliment into a character assassination done by you? Pointing out your flaws when you receive a compliment shows low self esteem.  We all have many flaws, but not until you mentioned it, I didn’t notice that your nose was slightly crooked.

Accept a compliment and don’t follow it up with what is wrong with you.  Most people usually never even notice it.  But if you want to tell me your hips are too big…I am going to look and no matter what I say, I will mentally take note of it and to myself I will agree or disagree.  But every time I see you, you can be sure I will be checking your hips out and you had better make sure they are not getting any bigger!  See what I mean, you destroy yourself with silly talk.

Be gracious and accept

Have you complimented one of your friends only for them to come back with something negative about themselves?  Most of us have been guilty of this at some time or other in our lives, I think it pretty much comes with the character of being a woman. We were taught to be humble and somehow we interpret it to not being worthy.  But we are worthy and should graciously accept such lavish compliments.  They are usually given from the source of love and if they are not, then just pretend they are, as you have the right to be complimented.  When my daughter was about five a friend had said to her how pretty she was.  Much to my horror she replied “I know”.  We laughed but let her know the correct reply was “thank you”.

We all have flaws

Men seem to be able to go through life without ever bringing up flaws and will accept a compliment without ever letting you know any flaws he thinks he has.  He is very aware of a list of flaws he has but will never be stupid enough to let on.  If he did take the time to list his flaws you would probably disagree with his list.  Most likely he would never tell you his biggest flaw, so why on earth would you want to reveal negative stuff about yourself.

Of course you will come across those who think that they are flawless. But I am sure that deep down they are so scared that someone will really find out what they are hiding.  We all know that no one is perfect and we all have flaws.

Be careful what you say

Revealing a fear you might have such as being held down could end up being your biggest nightmare.  You should never reveal such things to people you have just met, you don’t really know enough about them to honestly feel safe.  Showing your vulnerable side to someone who you are not engaged or married to is a big risk.

Be careful what you reveal about any fears or flaws about yourself.  Make sure it remains something that you don’t care if the whole world finds out.  If the relationship ends it could go public.  So what are you willing for others to know about you?